Male-Centered Women and the Danger They Pose to Society.

Available 24th of March, 2025.

Hey Besties, (In Coco’s voice)

Let’s get into it — no sugar coating.

You’ve probably seen it all over TikTok, Twitter, and even in your own circles: women whose entire identities orbit around men. I’m not talking about being in love or valuing relationships — that’s normal. I’m talking about the women who measure their self-worth by how desirable men find them.

They defend harmful behaviors, bash other women to seem more "wifey," and center their whole lives on appealing to the male gaze. Let’s unpack this because, frankly, it’s deeper than it looks — and way more dangerous than we like to admit.

What Does "Male-Centered" Really Mean?

Being "male-centered" isn’t just about wanting male attention. It’s about building your entire worldview around what men think, want, and validate — often at the expense of your own identity, desires, and even other women.

It’s the girl who insists feminism has "gone too far" because men don’t like it.

It’s the woman who shames single, independent women for "thinking they don’t need a man."

It’s the one who calls other girls "hoes" for dressing how they want — but laughs at men cheating because "that’s just how guys are."

It’s internalized misogyny dressed up as "tradition," "respect," or "femininity."

Why This Hits Different for Gen Z.

Let’s be real: our generation is loud about self-love, mental health, and breaking cycles but male-centered women are still very much around, and they blend in differently now. They’re not always the "pick-me" girls screaming for validation in the obvious ways.

Some are disguised as the "cool girlfriend" who lets everything slide because being chill is more important than being respected.

Some are hyper-independent — but only to prove they’re "better than other girls" who want love or vulnerability.

Some are even self-proclaimed feminists, but still tell you a woman’s ultimate prize is a man who chooses her.

The truth is, Gen Z inherited the patriarchy too — it just rebranded itself.

Why Male-Centered Women Are a Problem.

Let’s break this down beyond the surface. The danger isn’t just "bad takes" or "cringe behavior." It’s systemic. Male-centered women:

1. Reinforce Harmful Gender Roles — From the Inside.

It’s one thing when men push sexist ideas. It’s another when women do it too. When a woman says, "Good women should submit to their men," it hits differently. It validates the oppression. It gives patriarchy a new voice — one that sounds like yours.

2. Create a Culture of Competition Among Women.

The "I’m not like other girls" mindset convinces women that other women are the enemy, not the system itself. The end result? We’re divided, distracted, and too busy fighting each other to fight the structures that keep us down.

3. Normalize Misogyny as Love.

When male-centered women defend controlling, abusive, or disrespectful behavior because "that’s just how men are" or "he loves me, he’s just protective," it romanticizes harm. Younger girls watching this start to think love equals suffering — and that’s a dangerous mindset to grow up with.

4. Raise the Next Generation the Same Way.

This part’s heavy. Many male-centered women go on to become mothers, aunties, and elders who pass down the same damaging beliefs. The cycle resets. Daughters learn to shrink themselves, sons learn they’re entitled to a woman’s labor and obedience.

Why Do Women Become Male-Centered in the First Place?

Nobody wakes up and chooses this mindset. It’s conditioned. From childhood, many girls are taught:

1. Your beauty matters more than your brain.

2. Your achievements are cute, but marriage is the real flex.

3. If a man cheats, it’s the woman’s fault for not being "enough."

4. Boys are "naturally" less emotional, less responsible, less accountable — and girls should just deal with it.

The misogyny didn’t just create male-centered women — it needs them to survive.

So, How Do We Unlearn This?

We can’t fix what we don’t address. Let’s start here:

1. Stop Rewarding "Pick-Me" Behavior.

It’s easy to clown pick-me’s, but let’s shift the energy. Instead of laughing at them, let’s make it uncool to degrade other women for male approval. No more giving attention, applause, or engagement to harmful takes. Starve the mindset.

2. Build Up Women-Centered Women.

Hype up the women who choose themselves first — the ones who prioritize their joy, peace, and growth before seeking validation from anyone. Make that the standard.

3. Normalize Calling Out Internalized Misogyny.

When your friend says, "Men don’t like girls who talk too much," ask why men’s preferences matter more than her own personality. Challenge the programming — gently, but firmly.

4. Redefine What Strength Looks Like.

Strength isn’t enduring mistreatment for the sake of love. It’s knowing when to walk away from it. Let’s stop glorifying "ride or die" culture when it only benefits one side.

5. Remember: Love Isn’t the Enemy.

This isn’t about hating men or relationships. It’s about loving yourself so much that you never accept a relationship where you’re less than equal. The goal isn’t to reject love — it’s to reject the idea that love requires losing yourself.

Final Thoughts.

I strongly believe that misogyny’s biggest weapon isn’t men — it’s male-centered women. It so sad that not every woman supports women and that’s exactly how misogyny + its things win.

Male-centered women are both victims and vessels of a system that’s designed to control women through other women. But we — especially Gen Z — have the power to break the cycle.

Let’s create a world where women define themselves by their passions, values, and dreams — not by how desirable men find them. We’re not here to be chosen. We’re here to choose ourselves.

Till next time,

Azeemah.💜